1. Evaluating Yourself
1. Write down five personalities traits about yourself.
- Make sure at least one of them is a positive, good personality trait that you see in yourself.
- Also, list one personality trait that is negative or bothering you in some way.
- Don’t use your physical appearance as a way to describe yourself. Focus only on your personality.
2. Evaluate the positive and negative.
- Understand if you are only seeing the negative in yourself. You may feel like you’re not worthy or don’t believe in yourself. Find ways to boost your self-esteem.
- If you only mentioned one negative trait, you may have greater confidence in yourself, but lack insight into what needs improvement. Consider evaluating your limits in a healthy way and finding more humility.
3. Identify activities you enjoy.
- There are not right or wrong answers about which activities make you a happier or more personable person. This is just a way to figure out the context of what makes you happy.
- Some people enjoy activities by themselves or with a few people more than others. Some people love to be at big parties with lots of people.
- No matter the activity, it’s important to learn how to interact with and respect others. Good communication skills with others helps to show the best parts of your personality.
4. Assess what you want to improve.
- Your anxiety, anger, or temper
- Your shyness, fearfulness, or awkwardness
- Your loneliness, sadness, or depression
- Your stubbornness, irritability, or frustration
- Your lack of trust
- Your arrogance
2. Focusing on Positive Personality Traits
1. Find your confidence.
- Identify the different ways to feel and look confident.
- Have good body language that shows you’re not fearful of others. Maintain good eye contact. Smile. Look interested in what others say and do.
- Gain confidence by focusing on the positive things in your life, and what you do well. Think about any recent events in which you worked hard, did well in something, or overcame a struggle. Remember these times, rather than the times where you messed up.
- If you not ready to do something new on your own, try things in groups or with a trusted friend or family member.
- New experiences don’t necessarily have to be risky adventures that put you or others in danger. It’s just something that gets you out of your comfort zone.
- For example, let’s say you like to draw, but have never taken an art class because you’re not sure if you’re good enough. Well, that’s what a class is for–to improve, to explore, to create a new way of thinking.
3. Be agreeable and friendly.
- Show empathy when others need to talk or vent. Imagine what it would be like in their shoes. Listen without interruption. Put away your electronics and devices, and focus on being present with others in need.
- Try to remain kind and polite even when others are rude. While it’s important to know your limits, avoid trying to pick a fight when someone disagrees with you.
- Show self-control.
- Forgive yourself and others. Put the past in the past. Avoid dwelling on past mistakes, and focus on how to find solutions and be future-oriented. Consider saying these self-affirmations: “I release the past so that I can step into the future with pure intentions” or “I forgive myself one day at a time until it’s complete.”
- Focus on how you can give rather than take.
- Focus on how to be strong in your daily life. Stand up for yourself and others who are being bullied, demeaned, or hated. Have the courage to do selfless acts in which you put others above yourself.
- Develop your resilience by not taking things too seriously. Believe in second and third chances to improve and become better. Take care of your body, mind, and spirit by finding ways to stay positive and be healthy.
- Avoid being disheartened or disillusioned. Believe that you can contribute and make a difference, even in small ways.